Most leaders and organizations talk about appreciation. Fewer know how to actually do it well enough to make a big impact.
That’s where Emotional Confetti comes in, a concept I developed to make appreciation visible, impactful, and contagious.
Think about confetti for a moment. Small. Fun. Light. It doesn’t take much to throw it, but when it’s released suddenly the whole room fills with positive energy. Appreciation in the workplace does the same thing.
Emotional Confetti is the burst of joy people feel when they are genuinely appreciated.
When I speak at conferences and facilitate workshops, those who have share stories of feeling appreciated in the workplace always have a big smile on their face. They talk about how it lifted their spirits and made them feel more connected to their team members and their work. Sometimes remembering the moment brings tears of happiness.
The Science Behind It
Neuroscience shows that our brains crave recognition. A single positive acknowledgment lights up the same reward pathways as receiving money. In workplaces, appreciation directly impacts engagement and retention. Leaders who intentionally recognize employees are essentially activating the brain’s reward system, creating a cycle of motivation and performance that benefits both employees and the organization.
How to Throw Emotional Confetti
- Speak Their Language – Use the 5 Languages of Appreciation (Words of Affirmation, Quality time, Acts of Service, Tangible Gifts, and Physical Touch) to celebrate people in the way that means the most to them. Individualized appreciation has the biggest impact.
- Be Sincere – Confetti only sparkles if it’s real. Make sure your appreciation is genuine and heartfelt, not just routine or forced. Authenticity builds trust and connection.
- Add the Element of Surprise – The unexpected amplifies the burst of joy. A surprise note, a spontaneous high five, or a thoughtful gesture can transform an ordinary moment into one that feels extraordinary.
Why Leaders Should Care
No one wants to feel invisible at work.
If you’re leading a team, Emotional Confetti is one of the fastest ways to increase morale, productivity, and loyalty. It creates an atmosphere where people show up filled with motivation and commitment because they feel seen and valued.
By noticing, appreciating, and celebrating the people on your team and their characteristics and contributions, you’ll create a workplace where people give and receive Emotional Confetti on a regular basis. Now that’s a great place to work!
Coaching Questions:
What would change if you team was great at throwing Emotional Confetti?
Have they received training in the 5 Languages of Appreciation so they can better appreciate each other?